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  • If You’re Afraid You Won’t Fit in the Plane Seat, Read This First

    Let’s just name it

    The fear isn’t turbulence.
    It’s not lost luggage.
    It’s not even delays.

    It’s that quiet, looping thought before you book the ticket: What if I don’t fit?

    We’re scared of the seatbelt.
    The armrests.
    The tray table.
    The “what if I need to ask for something” part.
    The feeling of taking up space and suddenly being treated like that’s a crime.

    If that’s you, hi.

    You’re not dramatic.
    You’re not “insecure.”
    You’re a person with a nervous system that remembers things.
    And sometimes those things include airlines doing the least.

    I’ve been there. Many times. And I want to talk about it honestly, without pretending confidence magically shows up when you click to buy your ticket.

    This post is here to give you your footing back.
    Not with fake confidence.
    With a plan.

    Because a plan is what lets you exhale.

    First things first: there is nothing wrong with your body

    Let’s get this out of the way early.

    The problem isn’t you.

    It’s design.

    Air travel has always been driven more by economics than ergonomics. Seats are built to maximize profit per row, not to reflect the range of real human bodies moving through the world.

    Plus-size people are everywhere.
    We’re not unicorns.
    We’re not outliers.
    We’re not a surprise the moment we board a plane.

    In the U.S., roughly four in ten adults are classified as obese. In Canada, it’s close to three in ten adults, with numbers climbing steadily over the past two decades.

    That’s millions of us. Literally millions!

    And when your body feels anxious, it’s responding to a system that was never built for it. That’s not random insecurity. That’s pattern recognition.

    Airplanes weren’t designed for the bodies that actually exist today.
    That’s a systems issue, not a you issue.

    So hear me in this. You don’t need to shrink yourself, explain yourself, or earn your right to comfort, safety, or dignity in transit.

    And if you’re afraid you won’t fit on the plane, you’re already doing something brave.
    Not because you’re forcing yourself to “overcome” your body.
    Because you’re choosing your life anyway.

    That deserves support, not pep talks.

    What this fear is really about

    Most of the time, it’s not about the seat itself.

    It’s about:

    • Uncertainty
    • Not knowing what will happen if something doesn’t fit
    • The possibility of needing help and being embarrassed
    • Someone making it a thing

    So the goal isn’t to be fearless.

    The goal is to reduce unknowns.

    Here’s how.

    Step 1: Decide what “comfortable enough” means for you

    Before you book anything, ask yourself: What does a good flight look like for me?

    This might be:

    • I want the seatbelt to fit without drama
    • I want my body to feel supported, not wedged
    • I want to avoid pain, bruising, overheating, or swelling
    • I want my nervous system to not do parkour for six hours

    Comfort isn’t one-size-fits-all.

    Some people are fine in standard economy.
    Some people aren’t.

    That isn’t a moral failure.
    It’s just information.

    Step 2: Give yourself options before you need them

    A lot of flight stress comes from feeling trapped in one outcome. So we build options in advance, even if we never use them.Think about:

    • Where you sit – aisle vs window, based on how much movement or breathing room helps you regulate
    • How much space you need – standard economy vs extra space vs a second seat, decidedbefore you’re stressed

    No hero awards are handed out at baggage claim.

    Step 3: The seatbelt extender, handled like an adult

    Asking for a seatbelt extender isn’t a confession.
    It’s a request for a tool.

    You’re not asking for special treatment. You’re asking to use the seatbelt safely. So, if you think you’ll need one:

    • Ask as soon as you’re seated and a flight attendant walks by
    • Keep it simple
    • Use one sentence: “Hi, could I please have a seatbelt extender?”

    No explanation.
    No apology.

    You’re ordering a tool, not submitting a character reference.

    Note: I don’t recommend bringing your own extender, since airline policies vary and safety matters. If you’re unsure, check the airline’s current guidance before you fly.

    Step 4: Dress like you’re supporting your body, not performing an outfit

    Comfortable travel clothes are not about looking smaller.
    They’re about feeling steady. Think:

    • A soft base layer
    • A layer you can take on and off (I like a light sweater or wrap)
    • Shoes you can walk in without cursing your ancestors
    • Nothing that pinches when you sit for long periods
    • If you tend to swell or you’re on a long-haul flight, consider compression socks.
    • If you overheat, prioritize breathable fabric.
    • If you get cold, pack a heavier wrap or oversized layer.

    This is your body on a long day. Treat it like a teammate.

    Step 5: Build a “seat pouch” comfort kit

    This is the part that sounds extra until you do it once, and then you’re like, oh. I’m never raw-dogging a flight again. Consider packing:

    • Wipes
    • Lip balm
    • Hand cream
    • Charging cable or battery
    • A snack that won’t make you feel gross
    • Mints or gum
    • Mini deodorant or body wipes if you run hot
    • A small anti-chafe stick
    • Any medication you need
    • Advil, Tylenol, or your preferred pain relief

    It’s not about being high maintenance. It’s about being prepared.

    Step 6: Have one script ready for the worst-case moment

    The worst-case moment is usually not the actual problem.
    It’s the panic about the problem.

    So prepare one sentence ahead of time.

    • “I need extra time to settle, may I board early please?”
    • “Can you help me with a seatbelt extender, please?”
    • “Is there a different seat available today?”

    Short.
    Calm.
    Adult.

    You’re allowed to advocate for yourself without making it a TED Talk.

    Step 7: Don’t let one bad flight steal your future

    One bad experience can make you feel like the world isn’t built for you.

    Sometimes it isn’t.

    That doesn’t mean you’re not allowed to travel. It means you deserve better information, better tools, and better plans.

    A quick reality check

    You can’t control everything.

    But you can control:

    • What you book
    • What you pack
    • What you ask for
    • How early you plan
    • How much you refuse to apologize for existing

    And that changes everything.

    If you take one thing from this post, let it be this:

    You don’t need to become a different version of yourself to go. You just need fewer unknowns.

    That’s it.

    And if you’re reading this the night before a flight, spiralling, here’s what I’d say to a friend:

    You’re going to handle it.
    You’re allowed to ask for what you need.
    And you deserve to arrive feeling proud, not punished.

    See you in the transit lounge!
    XO

  • Move Over, Gym Rats: How to Find Joy in Fitness That Actually Fits Your Life




    Move Over, Gym Rats: How to Find Joy in Fitness That Actually Fits Your Life



    Move Over, Gym Rats: How to Find Joy in Fitness That Actually Fits Your Life

    Move Over, Gym Rats: How to Find Joy in Fitness That Actually Fits Your Life

    What You Need to Know Before You Dive In

    • Fitness has evolved. It’s no longer about punishing workouts or chasing unrealistic goals. Today, it’s all about movement that makes you happy and fits into your life.
    • Your body, your rules. Dance, hike, try VR boxing, or find a quiet yoga flow—it’s all about what lights you up.
    • Joy over judgment. Inclusive gyms, at-home workouts, and online communities are making fitness a welcoming space for everyone.
    • Benefits beyond the scale. Better sleep, boosted energy, reduced stress, and the joy of finding your fitness family—these are the real wins.
    • Start small. Ten minutes of movement can spark a whole new routine.

    Whether you’re exploring this blog for tips, inspiration, or just a good laugh (hello, stairs story), know that fitness is about you. Let’s break the rules, ditch the pressure, and start creating movement that feels as good as it is fun. You’ve got this!

    What You Need to Know (So You Can Start Building Wealth Now)

    Starting or scaling your business? These 10 books have the strategies to help you stack your coins.

    • Build wealth without sacrificing what you love—no cutting lattes or living off ramen.
    • Automate savings and investments so your money grows without you lifting a finger.
    • Define your version of a rich life—and create systems to support it effortlessly.
    • Crush debt and invest with confidence, minus the overwhelm.
    • Shift from survival mode to thriving with actionable, guilt-free financial strategies.
    • Start spending intentionally on what brings you joy while securing long-term wealth.

    Forget everything you thought you knew about fitness.

    Seriously, toss it all out—the exhausting workouts, the step-count obsession, the calorie-counting apps that haunt your phone. Fitness isn’t about that anymore. These days, it’s about something way better: joy.Yep, joy. Moving your body in ways that feel good, not punishing. Breaking a sweat because it makes you smile, not because someone said it’s the only way to “earn” dessert.

    Whether you’re shimmying in a dance class, strolling a gorgeous trail, or trying out a workout trend you swore you’d never touch (hello, aqua Zumba), the goal is to find what lights you up. And let’s not forget the digital space! Virtual fitness with gaming devices like my fav, the Meta Quest Oculus, has cracked open a whole new world—literally. Imagine boxing on a mountaintop in Scotland without leaving your living room or flowing through a yoga class on a serene digital beach. It’s movement meets adventure in your own home, and honestly, I’m obsessed.

    The best part? We’re redefining what movement looks like—one hike, salsa step, VR quest, and yoga stretch at a time. So if you’re ready to ditch the rules and start moving in a way that actually makes you happy, buckle up. We’re diving into the new world of fitness that fits every body.

    When fitness goes too far: my first day with a personal trainer

    Let’s be real—fitness doesn’t look like it used to, and thank goodness for that. Gone are the days when the only options were punishing gym sessions or, okay I’m showing my age here, but those VHS workout tapes with perky instructors yelling, “No pain, no gain!” These days, fitness is all about feeling good, moving your body in ways that bring you joy, and building a life where well-being takes center stage—not the number on a scale.

    The big shift? Fitness is finally about you. It’s about showing up for your mental health, boosting your energy, and just plain having fun. Think less treadmill and more trail walking, dance classes, or even a VR boxing match in your living room (yes, please). Well-being isn’t just physical—it’s emotional and mental too. The new fitness mantra? Happiness counts as progress.

    Okay, let me just share this so you know that I know.

    I’m taking you back to my first day working with a personal trainer. It was at this smaller, high-end gym in my neighbourhood—the kind of place that feels more like a boutique hotel than a gym. You know, all the new machines, a vibe that practically whispers, “We take fitness seriously,” and trainers who all look like they could be in fitness commercials. I hadn’t been active in a long time. In fact, because walking the three city blocks to the gym from my house winded me so badly, I had driven over (though this turned out to be the best decision I’d ever made). I’d also invested a good chunk of money for one-on-one coaching. For real though, I was ready to change my life, and I was committed. Like, actually committed. No flaking, no excuses.

    My trainer seemed nice enough at first. I laid it all out: “Look, I haven’t been active in a long time, but I’m here to do the work.” And we talked more and she nodded, made direct eye contact, asked good questions. I really felt like she got it. Except then came squats. So. Many. Squats. For a solid hour, it was like she was on a mission to turn my legs into jelly. And, oh boy, did she succeed. By the end of the session, I wasn’t just tired; my legs were shaking so hard I thought they might give out right there on the gym floor. Of course I did everything I could to look cool about the whole thing.

    The main gym space was on the second floor, and to leave, I had to face not one, but two flights of stairs. I took one look at them and knew I was doomed. My legs weren’t cooperating. At all. So, I did what any reasonable person would do: I faked it. Every three or four steps, I stopped to “check my phone,” pretending I had urgent texts to read. Never mind the fact that the stairs were wired with security cameras, and anyone watching could see me desperately clinging to the railing between fake phone checks. It wasn’t my finest moment.

    The worst part? I couldn’t walk properly for three days after. No exaggeration. Sitting, standing, even thinking about moving hurt. At the time, I blamed myself. I thought, “This is just how out of shape I am,” and felt all kinds of shame. But looking back? I see how wrong that was. What kind of trainer throws a beginner into that level of intensity on day one? Spoiler: not a good one. It wasn’t just tough love—it was irresponsible. Fitness isn’t supposed to leave you broken; it’s supposed to build you up.

    So, here’s the takeaway: A good trainer meets you where you are. They push you, sure, but they don’t push you to the point where you’re Googling “how to walk again” for three days. If you’re starting out, don’t be afraid to advocate for yourself. And if you ever find yourself faking a phone check on a security-camera-filled staircase? Welcome to the club—we’ve all been there.

    What fitness looks like today

    Thankfully these days, gyms and studios are starting to ditch the “no excuses” vibe and embrace body-positive, inclusive environments. You’ll see people of all shapes, sizes, and abilities doing their thing—whether it’s yoga, strength training, or aqua Zumba. There’s no judgment, no comparison, and definitely no pressure to “fit in.” It’s like the fitness world took a big deep breath and finally said, “Everyone’s welcome here.”

    Then there’s the sheer variety of options. Fitness today is as diverse as your Spotify playlists. You want a slow, meditative stretch? Try restorative yoga. Feeling like you want to bust a move? There’s hip-hop cardio for that. And if you’re into adventure, hiking and paddleboarding are calling your name. There’s something for every interest, every ability, and every mood. Because fitness isn’t a one-size-fits-all deal—it’s a choose-your-own-adventure kind of thing. And if stepping into a gym or in public still feels intimidating, there are so many options at home. Virtual classes, YouTube workouts, and apps are creating safe spaces where you can start your journey, judgment-free.

    Benefits of Fitness Beyond the Scale

    The thing I’ve been feeling lately as I make efforts to move. by body every day is that fitness isn’t just about weight loss (despite what diet culture might tell you). Moving your body comes with benefits that have nothing to do with the scale—and they’re worth celebrating.

    Mental health reset:Movement is like therapy, but with sneakers. A quick walk or a dance session clears your head and boosts your mood.

    Energy boost:Regular movement makes you feel less like a drained phone battery and more like you’ve got hours to spare.

    Better sleep:Move your body, and your pillow will thank you.

    Community connections: Fitness can introduce you to amazing people who make the journey even more fun.

    Tips for Starting Your Joyful Fitness Journey

    Not sure where to start? That’s okay. Fitness is all about baby steps (literally and figuratively).

    1. Start small.A 10-minute dance break in your kitchen or a quick walk around the block is enough to get you moving. Don’t underestimate the power of a little momentum.

    2. Find what you love.Hate running? Don’t run. Experiment with different activities until you find one that makes you smile, whether it’s yoga, hiking, or even VR games. Movement should feel like a gift, not a punishment.

    3. Invest in comfortable gear. Feeling amazing in what you wear matters. A supportive sports bra or comfy sneakers can make all the difference when you’re trying something new.

    Who to Follow for Fitness Inspiration

    Let’s be honest: scrolling social media can feel like an endless loop of perfect gym selfies and green juice you’ll never drink. But then, there are the real ones—the people who inspire you to move your body without making you feel like it’s a chore. These plus-size influencers and communities are redefining what fitness looks like, and they’re here to remind you that movement is for every body.

    Jessamyn Stanley (@theunderbellyyoga)
    Yoga for every body? Jessamyn is leading the charge. She’s a yoga teacher, author, and unapologetic advocate for body positivity. Her posts are a mix of stunning poses, real talk about self-love, and the occasional laugh-out-loud moment. Whether you’re a yoga newbie or a seasoned pro, she’ll make you feel like you belong on the mat. My favourite quote from her feed, “Just make space for yourself, just make space.”

    Roz Mays (@rozthediva)
    Pole dancing? For fitness? Absolutely. Roz, aka “Roz the Diva,” will have you spinning, sweating, and feeling stronger than ever. She’s all about breaking barriers and proving that fitness doesn’t have to be boring—or predictable. Follow her for moves that are equal parts badass and empowering.

    Jessie Diaz-Herrera (@curveswithmoves)
    Dancing your way to fitness? Sign us up. Jessie brings her love of dance to the fitness world with routines that feel more like a party than a workout. Her feed is packed with energy, inclusivity, and the kind of vibes that make you want to move your coffee table and start grooving.

    Anna O’Brien (@glitterandlazers)
    Anna is proof that fitness isn’t about fitting into a mold—it’s about breaking it. She’s out here running 5ks, living her best life, and making it all look actually fun. Follow her for a blend of fitness, fashion, and the kind of humor that makes you snort-laugh.

    Mirna Valerio (@themirnavator)
    Trail running? Marathons? Mirna’s got it covered. This ultra-marathoner and adventurer will make you want to lace up your sneakers and hit the trails—at your own pace, of course. Her posts are a masterclass in pushing limits and embracing the outdoors, no matter your size.

    Lacee Green (@curvygirltrainer)
    Lacee’s energy is contagious. She’s a fitness coach with a knack for making workouts approachable, fun, and full of encouragement. Whether she’s breaking down moves or sharing motivational gems, Lacee’s feed is like a hype squad in your pocket.

    Supernatural App Facebook Group
    Okay, hear me out: VR fitness. The Supernatural App combines virtual reality with full-body workouts, and their Facebook group is where the magic happens. It’s packed with tips, support, and plenty of high-fives (virtual ones, of course) from real users, including me. If you want fitness that’s as fun as it is futuristic, this is the place to be.

    These influencers and communities prove that fitness isn’t about punishment or perfection—it’s about finding movement that makes you smile. Follow them, get inspired, and remember: your journey is yours, and it’s already worth celebrating.